After experiencing intimacy, women feel less stressed and they just want to get even closer to the man that made her feel that way.
But at the same time, the man needs to withdraw for a little while to regain his composure.
"The Rubberband Man" is a song recorded by the American vocal group The Spinners (known as "The Detroit Spinners" in the UK). With the opening lyrics, "Hand me down my walking cane, hand me down my hat!
The closer he gets to you, the more he gets drawn into being a "we" and starts to feel the loss of his own identity.
It's hard for women to understand this because we experience emotions in a different way.
You've got to trust that he is going to spring back and get close to you again when he's ready.
There's no reason to get upset and wonder if there is something wrong with you. It's completely normal for guys to pull away from time to time, and that is often how they get closer to you.
Plus, once your guy realizes what life is like without you, he's going to appreciate you even more.